Few artists have created as deep a sense of connection with fans as Taylor Swift, since her debut in Singapore more than a decade ago in 2014. Her heartfelt lyrics and acts of kindness — from inviting fans to surprise parties, or paying their medical bills without expectation of return — make many feel like they truly know her. For millions of Swifties, especially in LGBTQ+ communities, Swift’s music and message offer a safe space, a reminder that they are not alone.
Feeling deeply connected to someone like Taylor Swift, Jennie, or Park Bo-gum can bring incredible joy. Their music, stories, and kindness inspire us, and their art becomes part of our own journey. Her songs such as “Your Need to Calm Down” and various stories inspire us, their kindness touches our hearts, and their art becomes part of our own journey. In this vibrant space of music appreciation, it is easy to feel close, like you are sharing a special friendship.
In moments like a high-five at a concert, a kind reply on social media, or even the chance for a group photo — as some fans will soon experience at Park Bo-gum’s 2025 Fan Meeting in Singapore — it’s easy to feel like you’re sharing a special friendship.
These emotional bonds, often called one-sided connections or one-way emotional ties, are completely normal. Whether it is Taylor Swift, Troye Sivan, or local LGBTQ+ creators on TikTok, fans feel seen, understood, and uplifted by the stars they admire. In fact, during Pride Month, these bonds can feel even stronger. For many queer fans, artists like Swift, who champions inclusion and allyship, offer vital visibility and hope.
Though, it is vitally important to remember that while these connections feel real (and can bring genuine comfort), they are not the same as a friendship. Sometimes, it is easy to blur the line — especially in the age of social media, where a comment or a retweet might feel like a sign of closeness.
When that happens, such affection can slip into obsession: constantly checking for media updates or trying to reach the star through third parties. It is fine to admire an artist deeply. But when your happiness starts hinging on their attention — for example, if you feel upset, frustrated or lash out, when they do not respond, or start hallucinating as to the reasons why they are not responding — it may be time to recalibrate and move on.
Here’s how to keep your admiration healthy: appreciate the joy without expectation, a high-five is a lovely memory, not a promise of a personal bond. There’s beauty in being inspired by someone who feels larger than life, and some quick steps to nurture this:
Gently name the pattern
“It seems like you’re feeling a deep connection with Jennie because of what you see online, but it’s starting to cause more pain than comfort.” Naming it gently helps the person see what’s happening without feeling judged.
Hold firm boundaries
Just as Taylor Swift can’t respond to every fan personally, the person they are fixated on has chosen to keep distance. Avoid relaying messages or engaging in side conversations — consistency helps stop false hope. The goal is to close the loop, not keep it open.
With BLACKPINK’s upcoming concert creating so much excitement, it is a perfect time to seize the day, celebrate the joy whilst staying grounded in what truly matters.
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