Neo Swee Lin: Love Is A Choice, Divorce Isn’t A Failure

Of the many life’s big questions, the ones with arguably the most resonance belong to the sphere of love. Can love truly be unconditional? Why do some marriages come with an expiry date, albeit unexpectedly? Why must heartbreak exist?

In Deanna Jent’s Falling, the second play in Pangdemonium’s 2016 line-up, it asks: “How do you love someone who is difficult to love?” Female lead Neo Swee Lin dispenses some words of wisdom.

Popspoken: What is love?

Neo Swee Lin: Love is a feeling, an emotion, also a choice. Sometimes we choose to love the wrong person or thing, and it affects us negatively.

Popspoken: Do we choose who we love?

Swee Lin: Of course we do! Sometimes you hear people say, “Oh I had no choice but to fall in love with her…” That’s romantic but really, there is always a choice.

Popspoken: Is unconditional love a myth?

Swee Lin: Not at all. The best example of course would be a mother’s love for her child. Romantic unconditional love though, I think that would be rarer and much harder work. Maybe it’s more useful to think of unconditional love more as an action than a feeling. And like most things, it has to be learnt and practiced. As the saying goes, practice makes perfect.

Popspoken: Why do so many marriages fall apart? And is divorce a failure?

Swee Lin: There can be so many reasons why a marriage falls apart. It’s not a failure. I really believe that’s a bad word, not divorce, but failure. There is already so much stigma attached to divorce, we don’t need to add more. As marriage is a choice, so is divorce. I suppose sometimes there is no other way, and the only way is to get out and is in those situation where the best family lawyers Melbourne guide you to do it properly, specially when here are children involve.

Popspoken: Can men and women truly be just friends?

Swee Lin: Yes, I think so. Well, at least I have a lot of male friends. And I’m married to one.

Popspoken: What have you learnt from the opposite sex?

Swee Lin: Not much. I wish I could learn some of the very special attributes of men, like the ability to ‘switch off’, not think or feel so much. Sometimes I get all het up about something really small, and it grinds itself round and round in my head. Worrying is one of the most unnecessary but regular things that I do.

Popspoken: Have you ever been heartbroken? What’s the importance of heartbreak? 

Swee Lin: Yes. It hurt. But you pick yourself up eventually and move on. You learn to have a steelier heart.

Popspoken: What’s the biggest mistake you can make in a relationship?

Swee Lin: Forgetting to love yourself first. You really cannot love or claim to love another unless you do that.

Popspoken: What are your thoughts on the concept of a soul mate? 

Swee Lin: I love it. That your souls can be connected. It’s beyond romantic. It’s spiritual.

 

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Falling

Date: May 13 – 29, 2016
Venue: DBS Arts Centre
Admission: TBA

Photo Credit: Pangdemonium
Cover Image: Theatre Memories

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